I received mine about six months after I was medically retired out of the Army and was still struggling with no longer being a soldier. It also happened to be during our baby shower as we were preparing for our first child. In the recent months, I still hadn't wrapped my head around being out of the Army. I had loved it, I loved being a soldier, I loved flying and I greatly missed it. Since my husband was still active and we had been in the same unit, I still saw my soldiers generally at least once a week. They struggled with what to call me, was is SSG King or do they dare call me Mindy... I struggled with not correcting a soldier when I saw their hair being out of regulation or them doing something else they shouldn't be doing.
As we were leaving Germany, even though I had been out for a number of months now, the finalization of everything hit when we moved back. The last part of me being a soldier was being left behind. When we arrived home, I was happy to be there, but a part of me still longed for a place where I was still seen as SSG King. Then the day of the baby shower arrived.
I had seen pictures of quilters from the Quilts of Valor presenting quilts, but I never imagined I would be on the receiving end of one myself. As my mom was announcing to our family and friends what was going on, I was overwhelmed with emotions. My family has told me so many times how proud they were of my service, my friends had morally supported me through those years, and my soldiers had known I was always there for them - but here was a group that I didn't know besides mostly through pictures had pieced together an amazing quilt for me. Around the border, the words 'We are Grateful' are stitched and in an instant that longing for a former place left me and I knew that even in the big scheme of things and the huge Army - that I mattered and my service mattered to someone outside of those close to me. I've struggled to put this into words since the day I was presented my quilt, but the other day seeing those soldiers and looking back at the pictures - the words finally came.
Thank you to the quilters of the Quilts of Valor for helping me find that closure and letting me know that I mattered!
The day I received my quilt:
I wanted to do some pictures of my son that was symbolic of both my husband and my service, in the first picture he is laying on my quilt with daddy in the background, playing with daddy's dog tags. The second picture he is laying on the quilt wrapped in one of my old BDU tops.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. What a beautiful quilt. Your son is just adorable! I could really connect with your struggle for your identity. My situation was different, but I left teaching 7 years ago to start a family. Then we struggled for two years with infertility. It was a dark time for me and I often remember wondering what my purpose in life was. People would meet me and say, "What do you do?" and I never had an answer. I couldn't very well say, "Nothing", but that was how it felt. Eventually we had two beautiful sons who are almost 4 and almost 5 now. I'm about to decide whether or not to return to my old job. Mixed emotions. But enough about me... Your story is inspirational. It made me cry and helped me to see our veterans from a different perspective. We hear so much from the men who have served, but I'd love to get the messages of women veterans out to the general public. Thank you so very much for your service, for your sacrifice and for your love of our country. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for taking the time to read it! It was a struggle, as I can understand you situation was. But it's amazing where those struggles can take you.
DeleteLove your Quilt of Valor, Mindy. And so much better with your sweet baby on it!! It is giving me inspiration for my next one to use up a lot of leftover half square triangles from so many projects (QOV's) gone before.
ReplyDeleteWow! I got your blog as well as your photos via National Military Family Association. My supervisor (I am a volunteer) knows that I am a quilter. Beautiful photos of the ceremony.
ReplyDeleteBTW, our son is with the Big Red 1 in communications. Another volunteer near me has a son who will be stationed at Ft. Riley.
And also, Kansas and Ft. Riley is a location I am assigned to find volunteers for the Association. Please have anyone who might interested in helping -- takes little time -- to check it out at militaryfamily. org and then get in touch with me at pkbeachy@gmail.com.
Thank you for your service, Mindy.